Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? If so, run fast and far!
Let’s see… You started dating this guy who was nice and charming… at first. Until one day everything changed out of nothing and you still can’t understand why? Then chances are that you are dating a narcissist!
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is a trap. Everything seems pretty awesome at the very beginning. He is caring a loving as hell; makes you feel special to the moon and back, up till he brings out his dark triad personality.
Before jumping the gun, and assuming your partner is a narcissist, let’s see in detail what is it like to be in a narcissist relationship…
Narcissists are generally thought to be selfish and self-centered, with an incredibly big sense of pride. However, their ego is extremely delicate and vulnerable. Hence, they constantly crave admiration to bolster their self-esteem. Being a narcissist is a real mental health condition (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) which, in fact, implies an excessive need for admiration, lack of empathy, and an inflated sense of importance for themselves. They depend on others and can be really manipulative to fulfill their needs and feel better at the expense of others.
Should you stay or should you go?
Well, being in a relationship with a narcissist is never going to be easy and most psychologists advise to cut the tie ASAP!!! However, before taking any decision, be aware that without an opinion of a qualified expert you can’t diagnose your partner with NPD, nor to change his behaviour. There is, in fact, no chance to find a compromise with a narcissist partner!
This blog aims to clarify some doubts and give you a better idea of your current situation. Have a read below and see if any of the traits ring you a bell …
Love bombing is the first red flag!
A narcissist can be excessively loving and caring at the very beginning. He’ll allure you by giving you all those compliments, making you feel special, and even telling you the words “I love you” after really short time that you have been dating. However, it won’t take long before he’ll bring out his real personality…and BAM! He will make you feel confused, miserable, and heartbroken in the blink of an eye.
He considers himself better than you
Being a narcissist is a continuous pursuit of self-esteem. A narcissist person would do everything to gain adoration, feel important, and especially better than others (including their partner). If after the initial fairy tale, he suddenly makes you feel insecure, incomplete, and simply not enough, chances are that you are in a narcissist relationship. Unlike in a healthy relationship, a narcissist feels better to depreciate his partner rather than giving compliments and praising you. And this is not how a healthy relationship looks like!
He has no empathy
A narcissist is extremely self-absorbed with no sense of empathy for others. You may have experienced that he does not show interest and care about what you think or how you feel. Whether you had a bad day or not, is not of his interest. Same as, your opinion and point of view during an argument. What a j***k!
He never apologies
If you are dating a narcissist, you may have also noticed that he is NEVER sorry. There is, in fact, no absolute way to find a compromise or come to a point where your voice can be heard. After all, if he has no empathy and does not give a s***t of how you may feel, why on earth would he be sorry?
He is gaslighting you
If you have never heard of gaslighting, it is when someone manipulates someone’s mind to the point of causing confusion and self-doubts. It is a tactic that narcissists people use to gain power over the other person, who is usually empathetic. He has the power to create a distorted reality where you may find yourself making excuses and seeing yourself as the sores of the problem.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can drain people psychologically, emotionally, and also financially. If these situations are familiar to you make sure you will find a solution with a therapy or get rid of him. After all a break up is clearly the best plan for a narcissist.
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