In terms of seduction, there is no perfect technique. In a bar, at the beach, or waiting for your bus, what matters is being open!
…but if you don’t know where to start, stick to our four tips.
These tips will help to put you in great situations and opportunities, but above all – be yourself. If it’s meant to be, then it’ll happen because you are being genuine. If you don’t know the answer to a question, there’s no shame in saying this; likewise just because you love a hobby, doesn’t mean that everyone else does.
Step 1: Get over your fear
Do you have trouble getting started? First, try to understand where this shyness comes from. What are the triggers for this anxiety?
If you have a knot in your stomach before daring to approach someone, that’s totally normal! People who are 100% sure of their seductive prowess simply don’t exist. Nevertheless, if this knot stops you from even trying, it sounds like you might need to deal with it. The reasons for this anxiety can be multiple: fear of not being good enough, tendency to anticipate everything failing, worrying about stumbling over your words, or ‘punching up’. Unfortunately, the best way to handle this is to get over it and press on. Remember, everyone feels that fear at first.
Step 2: Look Good!
We often talk about the importance of the first impression. They really matter, so make sure that you don’t make a bad one – it’ll be all that they can remember. Presenting yourself well reflects your personality and self respect. It goes without saying that good hygiene is a must, no-one wants to chat to someone with green in their teeth, or a smell that follows them around the room!
Studies show that to make the best impression, you should be standing or sitting a comfortable distance apart. This distance is between 2-4 feet. Any closer and your movements can be seen as intruding on someone’s personal space. You wouldn’t like it if it happened to you!
Step 3: Take your time
Time is precious when starting a relationship, whether romantic or not. Coming across too keen can be disastrous, and equally biding your time and waiting days between text makes you seem dull and boring (not busy and mysterious).
With dating apps like Gleeden, messaging back and forth can mean that you cover everything you have to say in ten minutes or less. At that point you’ve shown all your cards. At the beginning the waiting phase is essential, it allows you to really talk. If you chat about a hobby, talk about it in detail and ask them questions too – there’s no rush to romance.
Step 4: Keep your eyes peeled!
There is no ‘best’ place to meet people. Whether in the waiting room of a dentist, at the supermarket, or on the tube… What counts is the mental effort that you put into it and the positive energy that you release – which is true of both seduction or for any human relationship!