Just because this is uncomfortable, it doesn’t mean that she is a threat. Here’s how to deal with the situation.
Being jealous of your boyfriend’s best female friend is inevitable. No matter how much you trust him, having another girl always around can be very annoying and uncomfortable. However, if you really care about your relationship, before jumping into any wrong conclusions, take a deep breath and consider if there are other options to make this work. Want to know more? Keep on reading!
Getting along with your partner’s friends is vital for your relationship, especially those who matter him the most. However, if his best friend is a girl, things can be a bit more challenging. After all, she is another girl who is really close to him. Someone he cares about a lot, and also someone who knows secrets that you’ll probably never know. What’s cool about a third wheel? -Nothing! But hey, just because this is uncomfortable, it doesn’t mean that she is a threat. So, if you really want this relationship, then face the problem and find a solution.
Where to start…
Suppose you want to feel better about this friendship. In that case, there are a few steps you should consider before doing anything. First and foremost, you need to be genuinely willing to do this. Being open-minded and flexible, in this case, would just show your ability to think and act maturely and smartly. However, don’t be naive! You’re being really strong in doing this, and it is your right to know what you need to know. For this, your partner must be 100% open with you. You should know about her, their friendship and especially if anything intimate has ever happened between them. Once everything is crystal clear, it is your decision to stay in or let go.
Play it cool
No matter how much he’ll tell you about her, you’ll probably still have doubts and feel uncomfortable every time it comes to her. Want to reassure yourself? Get to know her! Be super friendly and try to get along with her. Getting close to her is the best way to clarify any of your doubts. So, make it nice, and see how it goes. You may be surprised!
Respect the friendship
A good friendship should never end because of any second party. If you’re hoping for her to somehow disappear, then stop. That ain’t gonna happen, and if so, he will not be happy at all, because losing a friend is not what he wants, no matter what. So, if you really care about your partner, then you should respect his friends, even those you don’t like. They knew each other before you arrived and if you don’t like her is your problem, not their. On the other hand, being understanding and showing respect will not only make you feel better but will also make him like you more and more.
You‘re his girlfriend, not for nothing
Look at the facts. He is with you because he wants you. No matter their intense chemistry, or any other thing happened in the past, you are the one he wants as his girlfriend. Feeling insecure is normal, especially in such situations. But if it can make you feel better, stop overthinking and look at the facts: he chose you.
Don’t forget about the boundaries
In the same way, you respect him and his friend, he should equally respect you. To do so, clarifying certain limits and making compromises is essential. You are doing this to make the relationship work and to let both be happy and comfortable. And in all this story, your happiness matters too. As his gf, it is your right to set boundaries and give him some does and don’ts. So, if there is anything they used to do before that bothers you, don’t keep it for yourself, and let your voice be heard.