{"id":2188,"date":"2013-06-24T08:00:31","date_gmt":"2013-06-24T06:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.gleeden.com\/fr\/?p=2188"},"modified":"2013-06-24T08:00:31","modified_gmt":"2013-06-24T06:00:31","slug":"faut-il-avouer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.gleeden.com\/fr\/faut-il-avouer\/","title":{"rendered":"Faut-il avouer?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Avec l&rsquo;\u00e2ge et l&rsquo;exp\u00e9rience survient le jour o\u00f9 l&rsquo;on se plait \u00e0 r\u00eaver \u00e0 une posture plus honn\u00eate: et si l&rsquo;on tombait le masque? et si l&rsquo;on mettait fin\u00a0 \u00e0 l&rsquo;hypocrisie? et si l&rsquo;on avait &#8211; enfin &#8211; une vraie conversation\u00a0 entre adultes? Que ce soit pour r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 une interrogation l\u00e9gitime de son conjoint, pour soulager sa conscience, ou encore pour assainir une situation complexe et b\u00e2tir une alliance renouvel\u00e9e, l&rsquo;homme (la femme) adult\u00e8re peut \u00e9prouver la tentation d&rsquo;avouer. Est-ce raisonnable?<\/h4>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ingmar Bergman a sa petite id\u00e9e sur la question. Dans <i>Entretiens priv\u00e9s<\/i>, roman faisant suite aux<i> Meilleurs Intentions<\/i> o\u00f9 le mariage n&rsquo;est que d\u00e9ceptions, frustrations et compromis, Anna trompe Henrick. Mais les remords la d\u00e9vorent. Que faire? Autre temps, autres moeurs, elle s&rsquo;adresse \u00e0 son oncle Jacob, pasteur. Celui-ci, persuad\u00e9 que le mensonge est un terreau malsain qui entrave la croissance heureuse du mariage, c\u00e9l\u00e8bre l&rsquo;engrais de la confiance. Il lui conseille donc vivement de se confier \u00e0 son mari. Pour\u00a0 l&rsquo;homme de foi, la V\u00e9rit\u00e9 est l&rsquo;unique planche de salut. Henrick saura l&rsquo;entendre. Le couple en sortira fortifi\u00e9.<\/p>\n<address style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>Usine \u00e0 gaz<\/strong><\/address>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Alors Anna avoue. Et c&rsquo;est un fiasco. Ne parvenant \u00e0 se satisfaire des r\u00e9v\u00e9lations accord\u00e9es par sa femme, Henrick r\u00e9clame sans rel\u00e2che de nouvelles informations. Il veut tout savoir, en particulier les d\u00e9tails concernant la sexualit\u00e9 de sa femme. L&rsquo;intimit\u00e9 d&rsquo;Anna est r\u00e9duite \u00e0 n\u00e9ant. L&rsquo;humiliation s&rsquo;accro\u00eet. Le quotidien est envahi par les insidieux relents pestilentiels d&rsquo;une impossible qu\u00eate de transparence. Bergman sugg\u00e8re \u00e0 merveille le climat insupportable qui s&rsquo;ensuit: \u00ab\u00a0Comment d\u00e9crire ce cercle vicieux, les menues chamailleries, les questions r\u00e9p\u00e9t\u00e9es, chaque fois plus humiliantes qui, pour finir, emp\u00eachent toute compassion? Comment vais-je d\u00e9crire l&#8217;empoisonnement qui remplit imperceptiblement la maison tel un gaz de combat qui attaque les sens pour longtemps voire pour toute la vie?\u00a0\u00bb La vie du couple vire au cauchemar. Henrick ne parvient pas \u00e0 pardonner. Pour Anna, les cons\u00e9quences de l&rsquo;aveu sont dramatiques.<\/p>\n<address style=\"text-align: justify;\"><strong>Doux mensonge<\/strong><\/address>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><\/b>Bien des ann\u00e9es plus tard, n&rsquo;ayant pas eu vent de la descente aux enfers du couple, l&rsquo;oncle Jacob mourant r\u00e9clame des nouvelles. A son chevet, Anna, Charon ang\u00e9lique, le remercie pour son pr\u00e9cieux conseil, l&rsquo;assurant qu&rsquo;il a port\u00e9 ses fruits, que son mariage est heureux. Anna a donc recours au pieux mensonge que ce dernier avait autrefois fustig\u00e9, alors qu&rsquo;elle pressentait qu&rsquo;il aurait \u00e9t\u00e9 pr\u00e9f\u00e9rable. Le pasteur meurt rass\u00e9r\u00e9n\u00e9. Terrible ironie du destin et pied de nez \u00e0 la morale. Pour accorder la paix \u00e0 un \u00eatre, faudrait-il consid\u00e9rer le mensonge-pansement comme un soin bienveillant prodigu\u00e9 \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ecrit par <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.gleeden.com\/fr\/tag\/lola-vs\/\">Lola VS<\/a><\/p>\n<address>I. BERGMAN, <i>Les Meilleurs Intentions<\/i>, Gallimard, 1992<\/address>\n<address>I. BERGMAN, <i>Entretiens priv\u00e9s<\/i>, Gallimard, 1993<\/address>\n<address>Lire aussi le chapitre qu&rsquo;ALAIN FINKIELKRAULT consacre \u00e0 ces romans in <i>Et si l&rsquo;amour durait<\/i>, Stock, 2011\u00a0<\/address>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Avec l&rsquo;\u00e2ge et l&rsquo;exp\u00e9rience survient le jour o\u00f9 l&rsquo;on se plait \u00e0 r\u00eaver \u00e0 une posture plus honn\u00eate: et si l&rsquo;on tombait le masque? et si l&rsquo;on mettait fin\u00a0 \u00e0 l&rsquo;hypocrisie? et si l&rsquo;on avait &#8211; enfin &#8211; une 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