{"id":1670,"date":"2013-05-03T19:38:27","date_gmt":"2013-05-03T19:38:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.gleeden.com\/fr\/?p=1670"},"modified":"2013-05-03T19:38:27","modified_gmt":"2013-05-03T19:38:27","slug":"infidelites-banales-et-pourtant-inacceptables","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.gleeden.com\/fr\/infidelites-banales-et-pourtant-inacceptables\/","title":{"rendered":"Infid\u00e9lit\u00e9s banales et pourtant inacceptables"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ne consid\u00e9rer la fid\u00e9lit\u00e9 que sous l’angle de l’exclusivit\u00e9 sexuelle confine \u00e0 la c\u00e9cit\u00e9 – et condamne bien des couples \u00e0 sombrer sur un \u00e9cueil qu’on n’a pas vu venir.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Le mot fid\u00e9lit\u00e9 est bien plus vaste que la simple promesse de ne pas aller trouver du plaisir dans d’autres bras. Au coeur de la fid\u00e9lit\u00e9, il y a la confiance mutuelle, le respect de l’autre, la loyaut\u00e9 \u00e0 projet commun. Ainsi, on peut bien aimer ailleurs tout en demeurant fid\u00e8le \u00e0 son couple, si c’est fait dans la confiance et le respect. Et inversement, on peut rester bibliquement fid\u00e8le mais trouver mille mani\u00e8res de trahir la confiance et de bafouer le projet commun.<\/p>\n

Il y a toute une s\u00e9rie de comportements qui semblent banals pour la plupart des couples mais qui repr\u00e9sentent r\u00e9ellement de graves atteintes \u00e0 cette fid\u00e9lit\u00e9 \u00e9largie. Voici quelques exemples :<\/p>\n

– accepter une promotion qui obligerait toute la famille \u00e0 d\u00e9m\u00e9nager loin, sans en avoir discut\u00e9 avec l’autre (puisqu’il fallait se d\u00e9cider avant que le poste soit pourvu)<\/address>\n
– se prendre de passion pour un sport au point d\u2019y passer tous ses week-ends<\/address>\n
– se lancer \u00e0 corps perdu dans l\u2019action politique ou associative et donc avoir toutes ses soir\u00e9es prises par des r\u00e9unions<\/address>\n
– se consacrer exclusivement aux enfants, l\u2019autre \u00e9tant r\u00e9duit \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9tat de soutien de famille asexu\u00e9<\/address>\n
– s’investir tellement dans son boulot que toutes les t\u00e2ches domestiques incombent \u00e0 l’autre, sans n\u00e9gociation<\/address>\n
– avoir toujours des amis \u00e0 d\u00eener qui finissent par monopoliser toutes les soir\u00e9es et priver le couple de son intimit\u00e9<\/address>\n
– se lancer dans un projet de maison qui occupera tous les week-ends, les vacances et les soir\u00e9es pendant plusieurs ann\u00e9es<\/address>\n
\u00a0<\/address>\n

Voil\u00e0 des situations qui peuvent profond\u00e9ment bouleverser un projet de couple, et qui par cons\u00e9quent devraient \u00eatre pr\u00e9par\u00e9es par d’\u00e2pres discussions et de longues n\u00e9gociations. Rien n’emp\u00eache un couple de se mettre d’accord et d’accepter la nouvelle situation. Mais le plus souvent, on s’y enlise progressivement ou bien il s’agit d’une d\u00e9cision unilat\u00e9rale sur le mode du fait accompli : lancer le couple dans l’une de ces situations sans en parler est une forme de trahison du projet commun ; une atteinte s\u00e9rieuse \u00e0 la confiance mutuelle et au respect des aspirations de l’autre. Donc une infid\u00e9lit\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Rien d’\u00e9tonnant \u00e0 ce que des couples se d\u00e9chirent sans que quiconque ait \u00ab\u00a0faut\u00e9\u00a0\u00bb au sens biblique : il suffit de ne pas voir ces infid\u00e9lit\u00e9s banales pour ce qu’elles sont : des entorses inacceptables au projet (malheureusement trop souvent tacite) du couple, et qui sont probablement bien plus graves que des aventures passag\u00e8res qui ne remettent souvent rien en cause.<\/p>\n

Ecrit par Audren<\/a><\/p>\n

Le blog d’Audren<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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