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Breakups are a tough business to navigate, and things get even worst when is you the one with a broken heart. Now, perhaps after months of heartache and sadness, you\u2019ve finally started to move on and to believe in love again, until\u2026 one evening, out of the blue, you receive a message from your ex: \u201cHey, you up?\u201d<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n When someone says they don\u2019t want you anymore, that should be it, right? So, why is he still texting even for stupid small talks? Whatever the reason, before doing anything, you must be aware of any consequences. Because sometimes, a harmless message can bring you backward before you even realise it. Let\u2019s make it clear: it is very common that a person who ends the relationship decides to text you without giving a clear reason. But this does not necessarily mean that they want you back! The motivations behind this behaviour vary a lot and depend on things such as your type of relationship, on how you broke up, how things are going for him, etc etc\u2026 <\/p>\n Whether you want him back or not, before making any immediate conclusions around why he got back to you, have a good read of this post and get a clear picture of why he is doing so. <\/p>\n It\u2019s commonly believed that the person who was dumped is the one who suffers the most. Wrong. Believe it or not, breaking up can be really tough too, especially if the relationship was important. Even if he broke up with you, he may be overall worried about you, and feel guilty for hurting your feelings. In this scenario, he may say things such as \u201cI wish it didn\u2019t go this way\u201d or \u201cYou deserve more than this\u201d, just to make you feel better. Nothing more! <\/p>\n After a while of not hearing from you, he may be wondering what you\u2019re up to and how things are going \u2026 Even if he didn\u2019t want to be with you anymore, the idea of you being over him can be unpleasant. That\u2019s why, he may text you to simply know how you are doing after your relationship ended. If he keeps only asking without saying much about himself, this is a sign that he\u2019s messaging you solely \u201cout of curiosity\u201d. <\/p>\n He broke up with you but now he\u2019s desperate for sex. He may know how vulnerable you are or how much you were into him. That\u2019s why after months of silence he comes back desperate for a last hook-up. He won\u2019t ask for sex explicitly. Instead, he\u2019ll try to give you fake hope for a new future together. If this happens only at late evenings, perhaps when he\u2019s been drinking that\u2019s a big red flag. Careful! <\/p>\n A person who ends the relationship does not always move on easily. If he isn\u2019t doing great, texting you even if for arguing will make him feel slightly better than staying in silence without having news of you. The loneliness may have pulled him down, that\u2019s why knowing that you aren\u2019t doing great either makes him feel better and more relieved. <\/p>\n Sometimes, especially after a long-term relationship he may text just out of habit. He was used to have you in his life, and now he\u2019s craving for news from you. This case isn\u2019t easy to identify, unless he would deliberately open his feelings to you. However, texting just out of habit does not necessarily mean that he wants to get back with you. So, if this happens, make sure this is the case before fooling yourself. <\/p>\n This is probably the most exciting scenario (whether you want him back or not!). Now, if your ex keeps texting you, take into account this \u201cmotivations\u201d and make sure you won\u2019t let him play with your heart a second time! Good luck!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n#1 He feels guilty <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
#2 He wants to have your news <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
#3 He wants sex <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
#4 He needs to vent his frustrations <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
#5 Force of habit <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
#6 He actually wants you back <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
\nA long time of \u2018no contact\u2019 can make him realise his big mistake. So, if he regrets what he\u2019s done, chances are that he\u2019ll get back opening up his heart to you. At that point, it\u2019s all up to you. However, no matter how excited you are, avoid showing your happiness too much. Make him wait for a positive answer or tell him to prove he\u2019s worthy of you. If he doesn\u2019t, then you know already what that means. <\/p>\n